Uncle supervises 4-year-old and 1-year-old at family birthday party, refuses to pick up food they spill: 'I thought it was funny'

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  • A little boy sitting at a table with plates of cakes on it decorates a cake with icing that he is taking from a plate with a spoon
  • Am I wrong for not picking up after my sister’s kids at a party?

    AITA for not picking up after my sister's kids at a party? So my younger sister had a 30th birthday at my mother's house with extended family invited.
  • My older sister, her husband, and two kids were there. My sister's kids are almost four and one and a half years old.
  • They kept dropping/spilling food on the floor, and I would call my older sister over to see what they did, and she would pick it up.
  • Later after most of the guests had left, my younger sister said to me, "everyone was nice except for you." I said, "what did I do?" She said, "you kept calling over our older sister to pick up after her kids, which I thought was r de." So AITA?
  • A little boy sitting at a table decorated with plates of a cakes and a bouquet of flowers eats icing from a plate
  • EDIT: I was calling her over not to clean it up necessarily but because I thought it was funny what they had spilled.
  • My older sister then would clean it up but I didn't ask her to. Second EDIT: I called her over twice.
  • One-time was due to my younger sister making a big deal about my not cleaning up a spill.
  • The other time, I called her over after I couldn't find a broom to clean it up.
  • And I wasn't about to search a house to clean up after someone else's kid when I am there to enjoy the party.
  • Third EDIT: I said I thought it was funny to show that I wasn't calling her over angrily.
  • That's what I meant by that. Update: I spoke to my mom regarding this. I said. I may not be coming to family gatherings if I am going to be harshly attacked.
  • I meant no harm, and it would have been nice to receive a nice explanation of what I did wrong rather than being called råde.
  • My mom said, “that's well within your right not to come to family events." I added this because some people said there was more to the story and asked about family dynamics.
  • Two young children hold out plates with iced cakes on them
  • kae0603 Why would you do that? This is your family and you didn't automatically clean it yourself? D...in...
  • [deleted] Original Poster's Reply Because that day, I was tired (some people may call me lazy) and didn't want to pick up after kids. I was there to enjoy myself as a break from work. I never go out around friends or family, so maybe I don't know protocol, but I felt my sister was aggressive at calling mer de for not helping when technically while it is nice to help, it's not my responsibility.
  • wesmorgan1 THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS! It's a family gathering - if one sees something that needs to be done and can do it, one does it. If that means fixing a towel rack, taking out the garbage, cleaning up a spill, grabbing more wood for the fire, loading the dishwasher, or something else, just do it. I wonder if all the "not your kids, not your job" people think that their parents cleaned every mess they ever made at a family gathering...
  • Adventurous_Rain_105 You are the definition of an a h le and them edits that you done to justify your assholness prove it even more what an a h le you are.
  • rosybloonde YTA. Why would you not pick up the kids? They're KIDS.
  • Muninwing Yes. You are. YTA. Can you put in any less effort?
  • [deleted] Original Poster's Reply Why do I have to put in effort on a day where I am supposed to relax and not have to chase down cleaning supplies to clean up after children who are not my responsibility? Like I said before, I think the best option for me here was to stay silent if I wasn't going to clean it myself.
  • Last-Sea-8923 Im at a hard stop here, at one point, it isn't not your job to clean up after kids that aren't yours especially when the parents are in the house, but those are your nieces/nephews and they were at grandma's house celebrating a birthday, so while I do understand not wanting to clean up after them, I'd talk to your other sister and see if she had a problem with it, say something along the lines of "hey, sister b said I mightve done a little too much by calling you over when the kids
  • makethatnoise This falls perfectly in line with "you're not wrong, you're just an a hole". Yeah, they aren't your kids to pick up after. But it's your family, and it's at your mom's house. When I'm with my family and something spills, I'm not going to say "hey, there's a mess here that someone should really do something about!", in going to grab some paper towels and clean up. YTA

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